Timothy Dhonnhok

Founder Break the Meta, LLC | THOUGHT RAID Co-host
HometownWinston Salem, NC
Area of focus: Purpose and Value Development
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"The most important part of helping someone develop is teaching them how valuable they are.  How truly valuable they are.  There are so many lies people believe about their identity and it defeats them before they even get started.  True freedom isn't found in the pursuit of more or better but rather the realization that you have value and a purpose beyond your circumstances.  Once you figure this out - and you truly get it -  it's only a matter of what you choose to do with it.

 

I don't have the power to change people's lives but I do have the power to show people who they really are and what they are capable of."

Tim has experience working with clients across an array demographics and backgrounds as well as on individual, couple or group basis.  His 10-year mentorship with LTD helped develop proficiencies in leadership development, psychology and business.  He employs an empowered approach towards guiding clients in the direction of healthy growth and personal accountability.  

Tim is the founder of Break the Meta.  Positively influencing people isn't just part of his job but rather hollistically integral to his purpose in life.  

A series of change began in 2015 for Tim when he decided to follow Jesus and was introduced to a group of people who would become long-time friends.  As the door to the tiny apartment swung open, a large bear of a guy stretched out his arms, hugged him and said 'welcome' with a huge smile on his face.  And by 'welcome', he meant it.  It was one of the first times he had felt accepted without having to prove himself or pretend he was something he wasn't.  He was

accepted simply because he was a person made in the image of Christ. (Thank you, Zach!)

'Thursday potluck', as it was coined, quickly became that time of the week Tim would look forward to - it was a pivotal time in his life wherein he felt like he didn't have to earn the value the people there saw in him.  It was his first time experiencing true community with people who actually understood what it meant to love people as Jesus would.

Tim began to understand his identity and that his circumstances had no true hold on his life.  He could change because he was capable of change.  He had the ability to choose.  This revelation surfaced through the support of his friends.  

Over the course of his life, Tim had come to believe lies about himself:

"You aren't capable of doing that... just hire someone who knows what they're doing."

"You need to be afraid of <this> because you can't control your circumstances."

"Because you have <this> past, you aren't worth <this> future."

"You have to accept the opinions of others because yours isn't worth anything."

"You aren't good enough.  You aren't strong enough.  You aren't worth it."

For Tim, entering into a community where his peers were rooted in their identity and not their circumstances was unusually inspiring.  As he saw it modeled in the lives of his community, he began to believe:

"You are capable - be willing to fail."

"You don't need to be afraid of <this> because you are in control of your perspective."

"Eventhough you have <this> past, your identity is in <this>"

"Your opinion matters."

"You are good enough.  You are strong enough.  You are worth it."

The desire to help others experience the same change in their lives prompted Tim's exodus from his 12-year career as a store leader for Gamestop to pursue his career as a full-time life coach.  To improve his natural ability with public speaking, he began attending Toastmasters; meanwhile, he began hosting weekly mastermind groups from his home speaking and facilitating discussion on various topics centered around vulnerability, transparency and 'how-to' application of Jesus as a lifestyle.